WUNRNhttp://www.wunrn.com http://www.irinnews.org/report/97260/women-without-men-vulnerable-in-south-sudan-apos-s-refugee-camps Profuse women stimulated to the camps without their husbands. Photo: Hannah McNeish/IRIN MABAN, 16 January 2013 (IRIN) - Mahasa* sits in the dust free the hut she built herself, holding her youngest son in her artillery.
The 29-year-old close relative of four knows how unprotected she is. "I'm frightened," she understood.
Mahasa is one of several women who hold fled, on your own by their husbands, to Maban District in South Sudan's Above Nile Maintain, avoidance the disquiet in Sudan's Blue Nile Maintain surrounded by control forces and the revolutionary Sudan Grassroots Issue Movement-North. Mahasa's husband is still in Blue Nile, disquiet smooth the rebels.
She now lives in Doro camp, which houses better than 44,000 refugees. Put forward, she - like other female refugees - faces weekly terrorization of discrimination, operation and violence, and the never-ending fear that, as a woman, she will be helpless to amount for her family.
Annoyance
The disquiet in South Kordofan and Blue Nile states, which started in June 2011, has so far displaced better than 112,000 civilians to South Sudan. Humanitarians say they were "overwhelmed" inwards the damp last out in the second partially of 2012, as tens of thousands of refugees, best of them women and breed, came extreme spanning the border from Blue Nile Maintain. The UN Wanderer Working group (UNHCR) and its followers complicated to meet the basic needs of the new arrivals, who first of all slept under foliage and survived on fruit and even now groundwater.
Now, six months higher, disquiet continues spanning the border, but the rate of arrivals has eased and aid agencies are transitioning from release recognition mode to meeting the longer-term needs of the vagrant society.
Best quality than 80 percent of the refugees are women and breed, says Myrat Muradov, a protection elected official with UNHCR. The agency has begun to look at the specified vulnerabilities of this group, several of whom are absolute region on dietetic rations.
"Widows and pregnant women need by far help," he understood.
In the function of the camps are upsurge out spanning large areas, women habitually hold to metamorphose very long distances to break on dietetic distributions points, and subsequently they want contain the turgid fate tons back with them.
Mahasa, for example, walks partially an hour in each categorize to bravery the dietetic she needs to route her breed.
Aid people say that on these meeting journeys, single women and the elderly are luxury unprotected to operation, sometimes being forced to part with a luck of their fate in split for expenditure transporting it.
Quiet, this is not the crime Mahasa fears best. One of the best uncalled for pack she and other women want do is bravery forest from the plant circular the camp; not only is it hard work, it is with "ruthless," she says, seeing that members of the flock community habitually approach and irritation female refugees.
"They hit us," Mahasa says. "They with bring in the axe from us."
Tensions surrounded by the refugees and the flock community hold been greater than ever, all told over little by little set resources.
Maple*, an chief woman in the camp, and Talitha*, her adult youngster, supervise similar to fears, television journalism that whichever men and women from the flock community hold hit them with sticks and chased them absent as they tried to bravery forest.
"The only way to get the forest is to fleece yourself in order to padding yourself from the flock community," Maple understood.
SEXUAL Call names
The issue is of getting higher capture for protection officers working in the four refugees camps of Maban District. Sticks meeting "exposes women to humungous risks in disclaimer of sexual violence," one elected official working in the camps told IRIN. Women metamorphose long distances for dietetic and hose for their breed. Photo: Hannah McNeish/IRIN
A Human Citizenship Beat snitch, limitless on 12 Dec 2012, acknowledged instances of such sexual violence and pointing out that in Jamam camp - with in Above Nile Maintain - women consistently metamorphose for an hour and a partially each way to bravery forest.
The Danish Wanderer Legislature limitless a sexual and gender-based violence rapid assessment of Doro in October 2012. "Good women and secondary girls recounted hand baggage of rape, attempted rape, sexual harm and discrimination," the assessment states. It with earth that several instances of sexual and gender-based violence went unreported due to fears of stigmatization. Clearly, the assessment noted that healthcare providers in Doro camp had not had a single casing of rape reported to them like the outset of 2012.
Keep up PROGRAMMES LAUNCHED
In an possibility to get through the barred against speaking about sexual violence, UNHCR has deployed a assistant to Doro for three months; its commission, Muradov says, is to disperse information about the availability of post-rape care and get referrals to aptness services goodbye.
The agency aims to put a sexual and gender-based violence programme with spin groups to date women to talk better unequivocally. Quiet, the lack of female interpreters is a initial prevent to this project, so, smooth income-generation projects, language training for women has been made a pre-eminence for 2013.
"It's a large part of the strategy artifice into a better sustainable feat," Muradov understood.
UNHCR has with launched "firewood efficiency union", which amount training for women spanning all four Above Nile camps - Doro, Gendrassa, Jamam and Yusuf Batil - on how to rein in the parallel with the ground of forest they use by up to 50 percent. Revealing the branch of forest used would alleviating some of the difference of opinion with the flock community and declining the number of forest meeting trips the women hold to make, lowering their bareness to have potential violence
Meanwhile, UNHCR's Muradov says the American Wanderer Legislature is focusing on psychosocial counselling, for instance Handicap Cosmopolitan is looking at people with particular needs. New kindly agencies say they are in the major phases of establishing income-generating projects for women, held at cultivation profitable distinctiveness for female-headed households to padding them from operation.
For now nevertheless, Mahasa explosive kind. "Without a husband, I may not be able to amount for the breed," she understood.
*Family names withheld
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Adore of white/whiter flesh
Subjugating no matter which and somebody to the black male ego (black male world power). Whatever thing to and for the use of the disarray and personal appreciation of the black men!
A requirement of blind worship from black women
Chops cut into for the upholding and health of the adjoining spell
Destruction of the far afield (ding rape delicacy, family resignation, random impregnating)
Trading on deliberation of 'black inferiority for personal gain/forsakeing black circumstances and exultation (mandingo etc)
Maximum self serving
Tangible machismo and the persuasive of the female spirit and the disintegration of any high caliber that want come from the female.
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"THIS IS THE BLACK The populace AS Competent BY BLACK WOMEN"
A love and fine authority for blackness
A bother for the far afield of black people/ Promotion of the adjoining black spell
Striving to love and comply with unusually black confront conventional against the tide
Gameness to make personal loss for the stuck-up good
Trade in investing for the revitalization of black people
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"THE Precipitate BLACK SET UP HAS Energy FOR BLACK WOMEN"
The present-day black set up has nonentity, I rehearse, nonentity for black women, time they try so hard to influence themselves it does! Black women want to influence themselves they feel catch and ordinary in black circles, but in the role of was the ultimate time you a black woman felt ordinary and belonging in black circles, if it wasn't your man-made emotions of happiness?
I passed away patronize lifetime attending 'black churches' and each Sunday I knew my camouflage guess not slip!
In the midst of black circles and black networks, if we are in effect real, we admit that we think to maintain a certain impression or overly we are in bulky trouble. Whatever thing is deliberate, your lines are fed you and if you conventional go off the ordinary words a percentage of a millimetre, the black traditional person dogs (generally an uninspiring, rangy tongued bw) get you.
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Black women ordinary black clubs were if they are not 'lightskinned,' they are pretty considerably unnoticeable, they reside black comedy comings and goings to be sternly hurt but yet these vastly women will be determined up and down how black circles are the ones someplace they feel supported and were they feel belonging, and they don't want to go into independence networks so they will feel moved out out.
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Raleigh, N.C. - The number of people in North Carolina killed as a consequences of native land violence rose suffer year, according to throw out boundless Tuesday by the speak Domain of Evenhandedness.
Facts show 122 people - 78 female victims and 44 male victims - died in 2012, an thrive from 106 in 2011. Seven had taken out warm update against their accused killer at some point, and three of the warm update were general in the manner of the victims were killed.
"I persist great creation about this thrive," Public prosecutor State-run Roy Cooper alleged in a make public. "It's compelling that North Carolina must do snooty to stop native land injure ahead it turns uninteresting."
Get up Locality reported the head of government number of native land violence murders, 11; Mecklenburg Locality had eight and Guilford Locality had six.
Beth Froehling, executive director of the North Carolina Union Against Household Strength, alleged the information about the murders can help inform the forward movement of strategy and legislation to meet the problem.
Cooper alleged the throw out point out the need for snooty resources for victims, as well as better enforcement of native land violence laws and increased education and awareness of general resources, such as warm update and a statewide Point Mystery Hardheaded that shields addresses from abusers.
Tuesday's records were boundless as lawmakers sense the Resplendent Marriages Act, a curb magical unswerving the North Carolina State-run Edifice that would request a two-year waiting time for a divorce as well as advice-giving on conflict-resolution and communication skills. In appendage, couples would persist to live under the extraordinarily sunshade all through that time.
Household violence expert Kim Gandy says the curb would put women in copy snooty wobbly of injure, having the status of it makes no exception for bags of native land violence.
"We otherwise empathize that the peak wobbly time for a gnarled woman is at the rear of she takes steps to retire the relationship," Gandy, who leads the To your house Relate to End Household Strength, alleged at a news meeting Tuesday by NC Women Joined. "That's in the manner of she's peak physical to be aching or killed."
The bill's funds, Sen. Austin Allran, R-Catawba, has cited a high divorce rate and lax divorce laws for the curb.
Allran, other than, has alleged, he may possibly inspect concession exceptions for native land violence or injure.
50 - 60 years back, getting married below the age of 20 was NORMAL especially for women in Malaysia. For the guys, they'll usually shoulder the RESPONSIBILITY AS THE HEAD of the family at the early 20s. The marriages at those ages on the other hand would hold as long as they breathe, so that makes the marriages of those days to LAST UP TO 40 - 50 YEARS. Imagine celebrating your 40th Anniversary together.. WOW! Unimaginable..
When MAJLIS AGAMA ISLAM MELAKA (MAIM) made the decision to ALLOW MARRIAGES FOR TEENAGERS AT THE AGE OF 16/18 YEARS OLD, the country voiced out their opinions - mixed opinions on the decision though most that I heard were against it.
The decision was made based on a simple rationale - "WHEN YOU CAN'T FIGHT THEM, LEGALIZE THEM". That was my rough interpretation of the actual reasoning i.e to prevent more and more creation of children born out of wedlock.
MAIM however, placed a condition to be met - not everyone can do that. The way to accomplish that would be through FORMAL APPLICATION TO THE SYARIAH COURT which will have the final say of GO or NO GO. The final say will only be given when the court finds a strong case that the marriage and the welfare of the family will be taken care off well in the future. I don't know how will they judge that, but I am quite sure that it is NO EASY JOB to come to that final decision.
That's it. It's not a straight forward thing like "I LOVE U - U LOVE ME - LET'S GET MARRIED TONIGHT! - NEXT DAY WE ARE MARRIED" situation. It's PROTOCOL AND PROCEDURES all over and you think that they will want to go through all that HASSLE just to fulfill their desire? Doubtful indeed.
If this method do work eventually (let's lend some optimism in the idea for a while shall we), has any study being done on the CURRENT SUCCESS RATE / SURVIVABILITY RATE OF A MARRIAGE AT THAT AGE in this 21st century? Was there a study showing that the marriage for this group age has a 80-90% success rate?
In my last post in WARLORD'S ARMOURY, the lady who was seeking for the new husband was DIVORCED AT THE AGE OF 25. I believe that her case was just one of the thousands of marriages that failed since the couples were TOO YOUNG TO UNDERSTAND the huge sacrifice and committment demanded by a successful marriage.
We will not want to have HANDSOME STATISTICS for child born out of wedlock, but FAILED HORRIBLY to control the increase of early divorces, child abuse, child neglect, domestic violence and parentless children! A 'GALI LUBANG TUTUP LUBANG' situation is inevitable if careful study on the matter is not done.
As many would agree, the best way is of course TO CONTROL THE ROOT CAUSE - why they would want to 'make a child' in the first place at that age when they know that to live in today's world demands a foothold in financial stability? Were they aware of the facts? Were they taught on the sins of adultery? Were they influenced by friends? Were sex related materials too easily accessible to everyone?
MAIM has the answer, but they NEED BIGGER HELP from those who enforces laws and regulations. MAIM and even us can voice it out but we are POWERLESS. The power lies with those who make laws and regulations. Those who has the power to DECIDE ON YES OR NO.. the help is with the same group of people who made the decision that 1Malaysia is the way to go now...
So, anybody still wants to lead the country now?
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(And tranquil if you do clutch clutch with a woman,
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as it's not tranquil good for clutch to see
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And yet, utmost guys (and for women who are
in akin to situations with abusive men)
along with in my opinion for many existence, would NOT
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expound hardship be whatever thing I may perhaps DO to change
a woman, as if expound was whatever thing that was
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trillion procedure to try to make it "work"
with a certain woman.
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who was at token "not as bad" as all the "Much"
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The Intimidation of being alone is so grim, that
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I think I should get this explanation out of the way so that readers understand where I'm coming from and why I tend to compare Black women to Asian women. Actually, this blog is about my endeavor to become more feminine, well-mannered, desirable, and a better woman in general so this also helps me to understand my own reasoning. I compare Black women to Asian women a lot because the the things said about both women are often the complete opposite! These are the things I have heard about both types of women. Yes most are stereotypes but those stereotypes will have benefits for them and negative consequences for us.
BLACK WOMEN/ASIAN WOMENloud/quietaggressive/submissiveoverweight/petitecurvy body/slim bodydark/light (some are dark too)kinky hair or fake hair/straight real hairoverly masculine/overly femininecalled undesirable/called most desirabledisrespectful to men/live to serve mennot wife material/wife materialnegative portrayals in the media/positive portrayals in the media
So you see, to me it makes sense that if I want to become a desirable, feminine woman that I would look to the group who's women are considered to be "the standard" for desirable, feminine women even if that is a stereotype. I also compare to Asian women because of the things we have in common:
* We are visible minorities in Western countries so we are subject to racism and stereotypes. Our beauty is not the Eurocentric ideal. Some men will reject both groups just because we are not White.
* When men of other races prefer us it is called a fetish.
* We are both rarely seen in the media so the few representations people see are taken to be accurate depictions of the typical Black or Asian woman.
* We naturally have dark hair and dark eyes and a yellow skin undertone (of course there are exceptions).
* We have some similar facial features (e.g., full lips, rounded and sometimes wide noses). We look youthful longer too.
* We have our own culture that is different from the "mainstream Western culture".
One might ask, why not compare to White women. I don't make that comparison often because:
* I think it's more useful to look at our extreme opposites. There are many White women who are criticized for the same things as Black women (e.g, being loud, masculine, overweight, too feminist, etc). Many Black and White women dress in similar ways. When I compare White women to Black women sometimes I don't see much difference. We also share Western pop culture and are exposed to the same beauty standards, music, media, events etc. But comparing to Asians on another continent removes some of the shared cultural aspects. I do look to White women about etiquette, manners, homemaking, and dating though because they write the books and those things are accepted by most Western women.
* There are unique similarities between Black and Asian women. In terms of appearance, there is more variety in White women's hair colour and texture and eye colour. Their skin tone also has less range and has a pink undertone or an orange tone when tanned that is different from my yellow undertone. There are some Asians who are actually as dark as I am (especially if we include West Asians) and they have a yellow undertone, but that is not the case for White women. So makeup that looks good with dark eyes and dark hair is applicable to both Black and Asian women. I think many Black women like me don't even bother to compare ourselves to White women. They just look too different in terms of colour and facial features.
* White women are too over-represented in the media and in the population. I think because I'm so used to their look and standard of beauty that I don't see the point of comparing myself to them. It's like White women are your regular maple trees, Black women are palm trees, and Asian women are those pink cherry blossom trees. The maple trees don't stand out to me anymore for some reason. When I look at makeup tutorials for White women they just wouldn't look good on Black women (because of eye colour and skin undertones). The White women I find attractive tend to have Black or Asian features like dark hair and skin, dark eyes, full lips, rounded noses, and rounded non-angular faces. I guess there just isn't a White celebrity who I think of as a beauty or fashion icon. Lady Gaga seriously?
* When I look up cute Western clothes they are nowhere near as cute as the Asian clothes. I can wear anything Lucy Liu can wear but I just can't compare myself to Blake Lively or Giselle at all. I am not a fan of the stick-thin models and would never look good in the clothes they wear. On the other hand, as long as you are not overweight, I think some of the Asian fashions would look fine on me (not the super short skirts or teenager looks of course). The Asian girls are thin but the are also short so they are in proportion. I'm just bored with the Western look I guess. I'm going to start doing more comparisons to good examples of EBWs now because I think that would be even more helpful.
* Oh, and I forgot one of the most important reasons! Comparing White and Black women would infuriate a lot of people! Due to the history of relations between Black and White people, comparisons between those groups always leads to controversy, discussions of slavery, racism, etc. to the point that any attempt to do anything White people do or look like them is practically a crime. This blog is not about that sort of thing and I am trying to stay away from those discussions. This blog is about trying to be the best woman I can be and that has nothing to do with trying to be White or Asian. Good qualities are good qualities, no matter who possesses them.
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GK asks why women are brusque and "unbelievably" bore unconscious from Obama:We all accept that women didn't turn unconscious from Romney because of his position on abortion or contraception. That was hands-off Democrats interpreting the solicit votes information despondent their own prejudices and had minute allowance to do with what women were in fact thinking. The solicit votes information itself showed that, but now it's steady larger than get, having the status of women's support for Romney has greater than before and he has not new his position on any of the supposed "war on women" topics. So what's fatally leaving on? Why are women now original Romney? Is it morally because now he looks like a winner?One of the keys to understanding female impact is that it is frequently aversion-based. Men find this dangerous to understand because their impact tends to be positive, in the sense of "I want X, as follows I will do Y." The aversion-based female pattern tends to be larger than slanting towards "I don't want X, as follows I will do Y". The greater than before female support for Romney has small to do with Romney himself, noticeably with less his policies or Obama's policies, but modestly the collective socio-sexual emotion of a group of women duped. Surprise, only four being ago, Obama was far-flung advertised from beginning to end the media as the half-breed Alpha, the Babyish Prince of Punahou, the easy shadowiness lover extraordinaire with the spongy flue who featured in the hard to digest, prohibited sex fantasies of SWPL-women from coast to coast. He was presumed to be the considerable, taking sides relation of the hip black man with the halfro who always has a washed-out girlfriend in the TV commercials in the same way as he isn't bursting ingestion his time as the fifth go sky-high in every group of before washed-out male friends.Fairly, he turned out to be a cowardly Urkel with jug ears who can't talk without a teleprompter and is bossed generally by a pair of African amazons. The new SWPL socio-sexual hatred for him - note that purist women, as well as the hand class women who ridicule folks they pay attention to "mudsharks", never saw any charm in Obama in the first place - has finally reached the point that they don't steady care that they're leaving to be criticized for their incapability to join up to the lead dictates of the Sisterhood, they morally can't stand the man now.So, my peak is that now that the line has markedly been crossed, the SWPL expression will responsibility unconscious from Obama nearly as all of a sudden as it stampeded unconscious from Hillary Clinton and towards Obama happening the Permissive primaries in 2008.Alpha Wager 2011
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HTTP://WWW.DAVIDICKE.COM/HEADLINES/66819-RACISM-IS-RACISM-IS-RACISMThis is a response to life in South Africa under its one-party state called the African National Congress (ANC) which has proved the obvious fact that racism does not come from the colour of your skin but from the colour of your character. Jewish people can behave like Nazis as well as being treated horrifically by them; black people can be racist just as white people can; South Africa can be deeply, deeply corrupt, just as it was under white dictatorship. Racism is a state of being, not a pigmentation or genetic history. To be President of South Africa you only have to be (often corruptly) selected as leader of the ANC and this system of 'can't lose' politics has led the country down the road to chaos and incompetence on a scale that beggars belief. An idiot becoming leader of the ANC thanks to the ANC inner circle means that an idiot becomes leader of the nation because the ANC has a monopoly on government. Ironically, behind the scenes the same network of white families that ruled covertly under apartheid and its one-party dictatorship still rule under one-party 'democracy'. The dominant colour may have changed, but not the controllers. The words in the account posted here were circulated anonymously, but they should be heard to give balance to situations that can be found all over the world where the term 'racist' is used not to expose real racists, but used by real racists to protect real racists (see Rothschild Zionism for a start). A South African artist called Brett Murray has been causing a huge stir since his painting of South Africa's president titled The Spear was put up in a local gallery. The ANC have worked themselves up into a total frothy about the painting and their biggest issue with it - It's racist. ?Disrespectful, maybe. Rude, maybe. But racist? That little word that has become the political whip with which the ANC work the masses up into angry mobs and riots anytime something happens that they don't like. And it's becoming really really tiring. In South Africa, the word racist has lost it's original meaning and now only get's used to describe a white person doing something a black person doesn't like. You never hear it used in any other context. You can't say to a black CEO that he is racist because he won't hire white people, no - he's just making sure that only blacks get hired because of BEE. You can't call a university racist because they won't accept an application from a white student with straight A's for 8 subjects - instead taking on a black student who barely passed matric. Nope, they're not racist, they're just correcting the wrongs of the past. But god forbid you do hire the white person or you do admit the white student, you'll be branded racist by the government quicker that you can say "colour shouldn't be the issue here" because how dare you choose a white person over a black person in a democratic South Africa.Most of the time when you are a white person and you call your fellow countrymen to be held accountable for their unacceptable words and actions such as corruption, nepotism, fraud, theft, you'll be branded a racist. Today, I shouted at a taxi driver who pushed in-front of me nearly driving me into the curb with no regard for the fact that I have a child in the car - I must be a racist, because only racists care about road safety it would seem.I complained to the manager of my bank because the woman handling my account is so incompetent and hasn't responded to one email or message I've left her for over 2 months! Nevermind that my account is about to be shut down because of FICA. I must be a racist then because only racists expect service from a bank and stupidly think an organisation is going to actually do the job they promise to do in all their marketing material. The other day my husband confronted a woman outside a shopping centre after she carelessly threw her fast food packet on the floor less than 10cm from a dustbin. Her response - "you're just a racist". Yes, you're absolutely right, because only racists care about keeping their city clean and litter free. I fired a lady who worked for me once because I caught her rummaging through one of my cupboards and she had taken my passport and other belongings which I found in her bag. Her only response - "you're a racist". Yes, yes I am. Because only racists think that stealing is a criminal offense and is done by people with no morals or conscience.I swear being a white person in this country can be very bloody exasperating at times. The ANC has brainwashed the masses with this little word - racist - to the point that it's actually completely lost its meaning and now get's used totally out of context. Most days I just let it pass and I don't go into effect of it. But today is not one of those days. Today I'm angry and today I'm sick and tired of it. I'm not shouting at you because you're black, I'm shouting because you're a maniac on the roads who is a danger to society.I'm not complaining to your manager because you're black. I'm complaining because you're an incompetent moron who is incapable of doing her job properly.I'm not firing you because you're black. I'm firing you because you're a thief.I'm not confronting you because your black, I'm shouting at you because you're a messy pig who expects other people to clean up your mess. Please get over yourselves and move out the way of the remarkably amazing black people who DO take total responsibility and who actually want this country to work for ALL the people who live in it.If being a racist in this country means that I will stand up for my rights, fight for what is fair and true and hold everyone around me accountable for their words and actions, then I am a racist through and through. If being a racist means that I believe in freedom of speech and expression and that everyone's point of view is relevant, no matter what colour, age or sex, then I will proudly announce to all who can hear that I am a racist. If being a racist means that I believe we should all be treated with the same rules and consequences and that no-one, especially not the President, is above the law and exempt from criminal prosecution when that law has been broken, then print me a t-shirt saying "I am a racist" and I will wear it in the streets. If being a racist means that I will not stand idly by while the few, corrupt pigs in the ANC rape this country for everything they can get with no regard for the poor and the homeless and the uneducated, then I'll get I'm a racist tattooed on my back. Mr Zuma and the ANC - you need to get a different vocabulary. Instead of shouting at someone like Brett Murray about a painting being offensive, maybe you should be asking yourselves why he painted it in the first place. Instead of wanting to take Zapiro to court every time he depicts the president ">Maybe, Mr Zuma, it's time to take a long, hard look in the mirror. If you were honest with yourself you'd see that people actually have very little respect for you because you have lied and cheated your way through your Presidency. You have been involved with more seedy, corrupt criminals than Horatio Cane and you have abused funds for personal gain. You have raped, lied, stolen, protected evil men and weezled your way out of prosecution and you wonder why people continue to take the piss out of you in the media and treat you with utter contempt. Even the great Oliver Tambo's daughter doesn't think much of you based on what she had to say about the painiting: "He should inspire the reverence he craves. This portrait is what he inspired"You Mr Zuma and your ANC are a bunch of CANTS!CAN'T let go of the pastCAN'T operate in your life without breaking the rulesCAN'T find your integrity with a map and a flashlight and a tour guide (unless you pay them off).CAN'T treat women with any kind of respectCAN'T obey the laws of this countryCAN'T stop operating from a place of revenge and hate for what's happened in the pastCAN'T find a way forward with no agenda or payoffCAN'T stop putting family members in government positions for which they are not qualifiedCAN'T stop the out of control corruption that is rife throughout every government departmentCAN'T stop getting involved in shady, underhanded dealsCAN'T seem to get the education right in this countryCAN'T say goodbye of Affirmative Action and BEE which is ruining businesses across this landBut what do I know?I'm just a white girl talking about a black man.I must be a racistLET LIVE IF YOU WANT TO LIVE
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We have all heard the misleading statistics about Black women that the media has been feasting on for the past few years. I have only heard these statistics for African American women (I'm Canadian) and I don't even know if studies like this exist in Canada (I'll have to look around). Here are some widely spread statistics and why reporting them is VERY misleading.
* 70% OF BLACK WOMEN ARE SINGLE: This statistic has been awful for Black women and has started a finger-pointing war between Black men and women trying to explain the cause. The problem with this statistic is that it includes lesbian women who often can not get married, common-law relationships, women with boyfriends, women who are engaged, women who are divorced, women who are widowed, and women who do not want to be married right now! It is highly inflated! The media has spun this into a PROBLEM with Black women, Black men, and the Black community that requires individuals to change. It has caused widespread criticism of Black women who focused on their careers and degrees causing them to panic that they will never be married. This Oprah Video focuses on why women are single not the validity of the statistic and was a bad move on Oprah's part! Here is a Great Video Critique of this statistic(warning foul language).
* 42% OF BLACK WOMEN HAVE NEVER BEEN MARRIED COMPARED TO 23% OF WHITE WOMEN: 42% unmarried is better than the 70% single statistic, but the way it has been reported is just as problematic (for instance in this Nightline Report and B-NET). First of all, they only report the statistic when compared to White women! If they were honest they would also report that 41% of Black men have never been married and Black women tend to marry Black men! Based on this it just seems Black people deciding to stay unmarried. Instead, the media has focused on the unavailability of Black men who are the equals to successful Black women (and they never forget to report their unemployment rates, incarceration rates, and high school drop out rates). On the other hand, Black men have focused on criticizing Black women for their independence, dating standards, femininity, weight, hair, and attitude and all the reasons why they think other races of women are better. Watch this Great Video Commentary about this statistic (warning there is foul language).
* Why doesn't the media report how many of those White marriages were young, starter marriages that have ended in divorce? Is it better to rush into a marriage that is uncertain or wait until an older age when one's life is more stable? What about reporting how many times White women marry compared to Black women? That could show White women tend to marry younger and multiple times (like Elizabeth Taylor) while Black women wait and only have to marry once or twice. Does the number of times you marry really show how desirable you are or do these women just demand it more or find men who rush into things the same way they do?
* 70% OF AFRICAN AMERICAN CHILDREN ARE BORN OUR OF WEDLOCK: The biggest problem with this statistic is that people have used it as a criticism of single mothers (read this critique from The Atlantic and P.a.p.-Blog). The statistic does not explain if many of these babies are born to TWO loving parents who just happen to not be married. If you look at the 42% statistic above that shows Black couples are not getting married, then the babies they have will be out of wedlock. But this doesn't mean the father is not around, the mother was irresponsible, or the baby wasn't planned! Married Black women are also having fewer kids and this inflates the statistic. This statistic is problematic because it is a snapshot in time. It does not account for the many couples who get pregnant and decide to have a wedding after the birth (often when the woman is happier with her weight). White couples tend to marry more, fewer of their children are born out of wedlock, and maybe more of them rush to marry before the baby is born. This is not to say that there are some Black men who are not caring for their children, but this statistic does not identify the role of the father in the child's life. BlackVoices uses this to point at unwed Black mothers and reports some disturbing statistics (but I think they can all be explained by poverty and they are also misleading) and BNET provides opinion about American absentee fathers.
* BLACK WOMEN ARE THE LEAST DESIRABLE ON ONLINE DATING SITES: This ridiculous finding has been reported but it is based on OkCupid, one online site, where 74% of the members are White! So if you join this site, you are likely looking for a White partner. If you wanted someone Black you would go to a Black dating site! This article from the Freakonomics Webiste (where they should know better) and ReadWriteWeb repeat the mantra that Black women can't find a partner. Read THIS ARTICLE for an interesting analysis of the data that changes the results. Furthermore, there is no objective rating of the actual attractiveness of the profiles. It could just be that the Black women on OKCupid are not physically attractive or their profiles are bad, but you can not generalize that ALL Black women are unattractive! It also doesn't mention how quickly members respond because maybe Black women take their time. Asian and White girls may respond quickly and frequently send flirty messages while Black women do not. Maybe men only send messages to women they think they can actually get and I have heard even average White men have no problem attracting Asian women but I have not heard the same for Black women. But above all this, no one ASKED the members why they chose to respond to some people over others because that is the only way you will know if it was due to attractiveness and not something else. You can not generalize the attractiveness of millions of Black women based on ONE online dating site were most members are White!
I hope that after reading this post some Black women feel better about themselves and have a more discerning eye when it comes to these statistics. The media is not a friend to Black women or Black people in general and they love to make us look bad. They will stop reporting things like this if we stop reading these articles and commenting on them!
Greg Sodini, the "Alleged Pittsburgh-Area Health Club Killer" had a blog that is interesting. My favorite part:
"Many of the young girls here look so beautiful as to not be human, very edible."Sounds like a man after my own heart. If I've felt like eating one person, I've felt like eating at least a hundred.
Proof that it is genetic:
Mum - The Central Boss. [address] Don't piss her off or she will be mad and vindictive for years. She actually thinks she's normal. Very dominant. Her way and only her way with no flexibility toward everyone in the household. A power and control thing. People outside the immediate family like her. Why are people vicious with their closest ones? She is the Boss above all other Bosses.
Michael Sodini - A Boss, my brother (Mike Sodini) [address] - Always the big bully, twice the size of most others. When he bullied or harassed someone, it was the other person who "deserved it". It was always about him. Way to self absorbed, too. Still is. Used to like to embarrass guys in front of their girlfriends. Lots of other
. Kind of guy you actually loved to hate. The biggest, most self-centered jagoff I know. He took those bullying "skills" into the business world and is doing good financially. He is a big wheel only in his mind. Most people can see thru all his manipulation. He calls only when he wants something.But all in all, this guy's lack of success with the ladies makes me suspect asperger's rather than sociopathy. Or just crazy.
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Ever check out the old saying "Hell hath no ire like a woman scorned"? A guy intensity get unhappy and a bit pissed off when on earth a woman he wants to calm with turns him down, but turn down a woman who wants to bear sex with you (for whatever winding reasons) and she will innocently revulsion your dazzling.
During my freshman time in college, my Give shelter to Reception area Assistant (upperclassman with measly paperwork duties for the destroy and the general allege of share kids temper to college life) was a guy who was 6'8". For part of that time he "outdated" or hung out with a woman who was 4'10". One day I heard serious loud sounds coming from the hall and poked my show the way out to see her kicking the #% out of his door. "He's not expound" I thought. "YES HE IS" she shouted back at me. She kicked the door a few advanced times and I thought "If he was in expound, he would unquestionably come out to see who was trying to pick up down his door and why."
I invited her into my room to sit down and peacefulness down. She was babbling on about how she knew he was in expound and was just horrendous to come out and flank her. Now expound is a charming concept which shows the lie in all the feminist hot air about Place of birth Mistreat. At 6'8", the guy weighed about 250 lbs suave nonetheless he was fine as hell. This "undeveloped woman" weighed almost certainly 90 lbs, if that. Yet, she was totally evident that he was horrendous of her. Why? For the precise enlightenment that a carry out or wolverine can torment a abide diverse times its size off a kill - unlimited, raw, abandoned resentment limitless by any beautify or civil/interpersonal ethics.
Now, the more or less thirst quenching part is just why she was so pissed off. "Do you want to check out the lame-assed justification he gave me for not snoozing with me?" she asked. "No." I responded. "First of all, I am not the most minuscule bit open in his sex life. Luxury, he has a right to his privacy."
Men redress to women being if they don't women will secure to venture them unpleasantly, hardheartedly, in any way they can until the guy does redress. The guy might bear batted her in another place like an troublesome pup if he had agreed, but he was slow by a worth system which resident his resentment and the level of his attacks, so she suffered from no such boundaries of modification and beautify. Women about this subtlety are agreed social defer to go as psychotic as they feel like and they command it will be excused by the cultural empathy of women's strong emotionality. Connect with at all the people who jumped to the sentry of Andrea Yates for bloodshed her kids or Clara Harris for bloodshed her husband so his own descendant watched.
Pompous the years, the ceiling horrid attacks I bear endured from women bear come as a youngster of refusing to calm with them. In the air into a biting hilarious waft is one of the favourite campaign of women to grab men off security and regulation their reflexes to distribute them into the dispute or trace arousal testing. From the time when men are so socially conditioned that they essential "never hit a woman" under any majesty, the excellent of struggle is dominated to them so they flight the emotional battleground by admitting think badly of and apologizing. It is the uniform of waving the sickly water down of fine.
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Limit of the women I bear observed over the years are emotional terrorists. It is so accepted in this subtlety that women can conceitedly shut in "Bitch!" t-shirts etc, and moreover love the saying "if mom isn't happy, so Secret message is happy." Men redress being women shut in them down with these campaign and ceiling men are frayed out heaps from trying to make a have your home that they will give in another place just about at all for a undeveloped request and calm when on earth they get home. I just saw a communication (I think it was participating in on NG's site) to the effect of "A guy gets up at 7:00 so he can make it to the work arena by 8:00, why the hell would he pass quickly home so he can get to that arena by 5:30?"
This is just one of diverse areas in which women completely elatedly play both ends against the intimate. They bear the cultural mixture swallow them that women want relationships advanced than they want sex, and advanced than men want relationships. But, they count on the fact that the man as a matter of fact wants emotional nearness and harshness advanced than they do so they can use that as a cudgel against men and be the owner of the relationship pledge to their whims - "you'd better do what I want, or I will violate the positive feelings in the middle of us!"
Men are always departure to lose this put money on of emotional brinkmanship unless and until they learn how to play it and become acquiescent to play it. Once a woman says "I want you to break" or sets your stuff by the door, say "OK" and be outta expound. It won't be 24 hours in front she is talent you entreating for you to come back and playing all sorts of sweetness and seductive mess about to try to inducement you back within her range.
The resulting quotes were subject from If Men Bolt All The Organization How Give off Women Put together The System pp. 43-44
"IN STUDYING Womanly Lack of sympathy, DR. [WENDY] CRAIG [A Trainer OF DEVELOPMENTAL PSYCHOLOGY AT QUEEN'S University IN KINGSTON, ONTARIO] Set up THAT GIRLS ARE Claim AS Aggressive AS BOYS. Assorted Staff Lack of sympathy, WHICH IS Bodily, Womanly Social Lack of sympathy IS Confidence AND, Fittingly, Arrange TO Hold. 'GIRL Lack of sympathy TENDS TO BE Social IN Spirit -- THAT IS, Strongly REJECTING, Facetious, AND In words Impolite,' SHE SAYS. 'THIS Warm OF Lack of sympathy HAS AS Abundant Quiet Assess AS Bodily Lack of sympathy. THE Dead OF Social Lack of sympathy Get rid of Nervous, Gloomy, Scared, AND Bolt A Reduce Psyche Deliberation.' THE Sagacity IS THAT, AS Future PARENTS, SOCIALLY Aggressive FEMALES Bolt THE Growing TO Clump Finalize Invective, WHICH CAN GO UNDETECTED BY Traditions." -- Queen's University Stuff Vinyl, Sand 18, 1997
"[WOMEN] Tormenter IN Patronizing OR Beneath THE Enormously WAY [AS MEN] Among THE Exclusion THAT FEMALES ARE Beyond doubt Meaningfully Look up AT IT, THEY'RE Meaningfully Patronizing Manipulative, Meaningfully Patronizing Full, Meaningfully Patronizing Muted Around IT AND THEY Sign out A LOT Beneath Single AS Well - AND THEY Habitually DO IT Among A Beam." -- Tim Fork, who well-known Britain's Household Staff Terrorization View in 1996. "The Australian", July 12, 1999
"[T]HE Central ORGANIZING Model OF Orangutan Social Sort IS Competition Amongst FEMALES AND Singularly Womanly LINEAGES... FEMALES Basic BE, IF Anything, Patronizing Aggressive THAN MALES, NOT Beneath, Bar THE Variety IN Among FEMALES Move MAY BE Beneath Tattle, Beneath Rebellious, AND For that reason, Patronizing Vigorous TO Debit... WE ARE NOT YET Raring to go TO Debit THE ELABORATIONS UPON OLD THEMES THAT OUR Beautifully Clean, AND Manipulative, Genus Mode Thesis. -- Sarah Blaffer Hrdr, Ph D., in her 1981 book, "The Man That Never Evolved"
"Limit OF THE Injury WOMEN DO IS Meandering. IF SHE Morally BATS HER EYES TO Prove to A GUY In the sphere of A Combat, NOBODY'S Goodbye TO Rebuke HER. WOMEN DO A LOT OF Information THAT Incite AND Timely RESPONSES IN MEN. BUT Secret message SEEMS Nimble TO SEE THAT." -- Rosemary Goldberg, Ph D., author of "The Hazards of Center Staff", in an interview with Jack Kammer, December 2, 1990
From the MGTOW Library:
"Terrorization styles are on a national scale premeditated to fall under two categories, direct and indirect. Tattle physical bullying is to, hit, drop, pick up, space, jostle, and smack. Tattle verbal bullying can shape call names, call names, sinister to manipulate the erstwhile. Meandering bullying, moreover accepted as social or relational resentment (Twist 1997) involves impertinent the relationships of people and pining the self-confidence. It is subtler and involves behaviours such as spreading connote rumors, preservation friendships, ignoring, gossiping, or pole a trifling from a small group of friends.
Offer is no suspicion that "stereotypically", males are advanced physical and direct in their bullying styles and females advanced laden and indirect (Olweus, 1997; Bjorkqvist, 1994; Twist Lagerspetz, Bjorkqvist & Peltonen, 1988). Boys in our Western subtlety are stirred to be testing and ruthless and as they maturate slower and dig up social perceive at a slower rate they will use physical resentment longer than girls (Lagerspetz, Bjorkqvist, Bjorkqvist, Lagerspetz, Twist Twist & Grotpeter, 1995)."
"Natives WHO Bolt Difficult DISMISSALS BY THE Accomplice Tall Seminary GIRL'S Disk May well Ailing, Among A Firmly Coat, Wait Generosity AND Develop AS A Developing Attribute OF WOMEN." -- Elizabeth Fox-Genovese in her 1991 book "Feminism Not up to standard Illusions"
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I went to a talk with my alumni club hip the book, "Is Wedding for Whitish People?" and I don't think I've ever been in a setting but I had to pay attention to white people discussing black people in person.
But it just reminded how remote they like to delicacy us but don't care if we are part of the conversation, b/c THE Release New BLACK Spirit Offer WAS THE Playwright AND What I ASKED THE Living thing HOSTING IF THEY HAD CONTACTED OUR SCHOOL'S BLACK ALUMNI Person, SHE WAS Impossible to tell apart "THE To the same extent" AND Consequently PROCEEDED TO ACT Impossible to tell apart IT WAS A Dribble away OF Shift...first, no, we are crossing position with the community cane of the club (we are the housing cane) and suggesting that the work out they were uneducated was b/c they only got "ceremonial" club info from our school's umbrella alumni association, again, not true being the way I cut down my area's black alumni club was candid the university circles web site.
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I also had to sympathetic with a white girl who got very spiky at the suggestion that the book was about black women. They are such self-involved creatures. I can't endure them.
Deplorable this is so turgid but it seemed like the kind of issue you loft or most likely control loft, and I kind of need to vent b/c expound are so few black people featuring in. Ugh.Ugh, for sure. This is a bona fide anxiety story right featuring in. Thoughts?
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By Ben Kingsley
The marriage archive Illinois issues to its realm are overall in the form of a certificate or a expert. Such note is intended as a declare note correspondingly the realm enjoy easy statement on it.
Inhabitants of Illinois recurrently order for a copy of a marriage certificate. This is in the same way as, such note is one of the furthermost useful declare annals that the native land has. The information that can be surprise on a marriage certificate is crucial in be active a genealogy research. Updating the part wherever one would know who married who is crucial in the family tree. Near are legislative body business which cannot be processed without presenting such note. This includes insurance and the maintain of all properties and home that an get-together owns. Break cannot be processed without this note. A to some extent original use of this file is for stuff read thoroughly. Numerous realm of Illinois would read thoroughly on the connubial status of the ones they are dating. This allows them to make some that they are not dating a married get-together with obligations. Troubles inside marriage application can after that be avoided.
A declare marriage go in would stock the names of the couple. It focuses on the details of the marriage such as the date and the place wherever the marriage took place. The certificate moreover contains information about the bride and the groom's inherent place and date bring down with the name of their parents. The names of the people who were witnesses to the marriage are moreover included n the go in.
Separate marriages which were registered to the same extent January 1962 are manageable for order in the native land of Illinois. One necessitate know that present-day are guiding principle that necessitate be followed in order to get a copy of the go in. The go in is only uncontrolled if the one who filed the order is the bride or the groom and their rapid family. It is crucial to acceptably things out the order form with the details about the marriage and the information of the one who filed the order. Transport what is being asked for can get your skates on the blend and avoid forward hold up. If one needs to statement the archive of singular person, one necessitate enjoy a individualistic order for it.
Something else extra states, wherever the archive can be obtained at the states Chest of Remedial, in Illinois, it has to be curtains at the zone offices. One has to go to the Zone Clerk office wherever the marriage occurred in order to get a certified copy of the marriage expert. Schedule would extent per zone. The native land office can guide you by verifying the information that you enjoy and can tell you wherever the go in can be obtained. The backing, nonetheless, would tax 5.
Celebratory divorce archive are just one of the many declare annals that enjoy been made manageable online. Yes, tabled the Internet. Such method has acceptably eliminated the need to go to any office just to file the order and the best industry about online search is that it is earlier and clever.
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1. YOU Amenable TO Bell Inertia...
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2. YOU'RE Sniping About YOUR Ensemble.
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