Early Age Marriage What Lies Beneath

50 - 60 years back, getting married below the age of 20 was NORMAL especially for women in Malaysia. For the guys, they'll usually shoulder the RESPONSIBILITY AS THE HEAD of the family at the early 20s. The marriages at those ages on the other hand would hold as long as they breathe, so that makes the marriages of those days to LAST UP TO 40 - 50 YEARS. Imagine celebrating your 40th Anniversary together.. WOW! Unimaginable..

When MAJLIS AGAMA ISLAM MELAKA (MAIM) made the decision to ALLOW MARRIAGES FOR TEENAGERS AT THE AGE OF 16/18 YEARS OLD, the country voiced out their opinions - mixed opinions on the decision though most that I heard were against it.

The decision was made based on a simple rationale - "WHEN YOU CAN'T FIGHT THEM, LEGALIZE THEM". That was my rough interpretation of the actual reasoning i.e to prevent more and more creation of children born out of wedlock.

MAIM however, placed a condition to be met - not everyone can do that. The way to accomplish that would be through FORMAL APPLICATION TO THE SYARIAH COURT which will have the final say of GO or NO GO. The final say will only be given when the court finds a strong case that the marriage and the welfare of the family will be taken care off well in the future. I don't know how will they judge that, but I am quite sure that it is NO EASY JOB to come to that final decision.

That's it. It's not a straight forward thing like "I LOVE U - U LOVE ME - LET'S GET MARRIED TONIGHT! - NEXT DAY WE ARE MARRIED" situation. It's PROTOCOL AND PROCEDURES all over and you think that they will want to go through all that HASSLE just to fulfill their desire? Doubtful indeed.

If this method do work eventually (let's lend some optimism in the idea for a while shall we), has any study being done on the CURRENT SUCCESS RATE / SURVIVABILITY RATE OF A MARRIAGE AT THAT AGE in this 21st century? Was there a study showing that the marriage for this group age has a 80-90% success rate?

In my last post in WARLORD'S ARMOURY, the lady who was seeking for the new husband was DIVORCED AT THE AGE OF 25. I believe that her case was just one of the thousands of marriages that failed since the couples were TOO YOUNG TO UNDERSTAND the huge sacrifice and committment demanded by a successful marriage.

We will not want to have HANDSOME STATISTICS for child born out of wedlock, but FAILED HORRIBLY to control the increase of early divorces, child abuse, child neglect, domestic violence and parentless children! A 'GALI LUBANG TUTUP LUBANG' situation is inevitable if careful study on the matter is not done.

As many would agree, the best way is of course TO CONTROL THE ROOT CAUSE - why they would want to 'make a child' in the first place at that age when they know that to live in today's world demands a foothold in financial stability? Were they aware of the facts? Were they taught on the sins of adultery? Were they influenced by friends? Were sex related materials too easily accessible to everyone?

MAIM has the answer, but they NEED BIGGER HELP from those who enforces laws and regulations. MAIM and even us can voice it out but we are POWERLESS. The power lies with those who make laws and regulations. Those who has the power to DECIDE ON YES OR NO.. the help is with the same group of people who made the decision that 1Malaysia is the way to go now...

So, anybody still wants to lead the country now?

Source: datingforaverageguys.blogspot.com